Dear Abby: I’m smitten, and people tell me I’m delusional
DEAR ABBY I am a woman in my mid- s who has had only abusive toxic and horrendous relationships after entering adulthood Related Articles Dear Abby It s none of my fiance s business how much I spend Dear Abby The men I want to date vanish as soon as I tell them the truth Dear Abby A false accusation destroyed our friendship Should I give it a second chance Dear Abby The secret about my husband has turned my world upside down Dear Abby I had surgery and my husband wouldn t stay home with me Since high school I have spent years trying to find a good guy who will treat me with respect and love me unconditionally I made a friend online two years ago who I began recording music and podcasts with He lives in another state He s smart witty and sarcastic and we hit it off well as long-distance friends I am smitten with him and he is with me and we are a thing now In a scarce months he and a mutual friend are flying here to see me and to attend a concert He says he wants to transfer schools and attend school here As someone who s been single for three years I feel ready to love again and be with someone and my gut instincts and intuition feel safe with him The only roadblock I m worried about is my family They don t believe my relationship is real They think I m delusional for being with someone long-distance even though my mom met my stepdad in a different state I also don t know how I ll be able to explain this to my grandparents or my very strict racist dad How do I respond to people who call me delusional SEEMS LIKE THE REAL THING DEAR SEEMS Although you have known this person for two years you may be jumping the gun While he may be everything you say he is and he says he is you can t be certain he is really Prince Charming until you meet in person That he is considering transferring to a nearby school to be closer to you is a good thing It will give you an opportunity to judge whether he is really the person he presents himself to be and allow your family to get to know him It will also provide him an opportunity if the romance continues to develop to decide if he would welcome them as in-laws in spite of the racism you so casually mentioned in passing DEAR ABBY I know I ll be chastised for having these thoughts but I need advice I thought I was supportive to my friend who lost her husband after a four-year battle with Alzheimer s affection We have known each other for years She has become unresponsive and no longer asks me about anything I check on her almost daily but she never makes the first text I also send cards which she does not acknowledge Her husband died more than a year ago and I know I shouldn t judge her grieving but I thought she would be better by this time Widows ask why their friends desert them after a death but what about the widows who desert friends LONELY IN THE EAST Related Articles Asking Eric I know what to do about my daughter s childhood friend but I feel bad Harriette Cole I called my friend out for acting strange and she left the party Miss Manners She keeps saying we need to go out and get crazy I absolutely do not want to Dear Abby It s none of my fiance s business how much I spend Asking Eric Can the boss make my co-worker shave DEAR LONELY Various individuals are more resilient than others While you may have been able to get over the loss of a spouse parent child or pet hurriedly others are not so lucky The sad fact is there is no set timetable for grieving Invite her out to lunch so you can talk face to face instead of relying on cards and texts If you do it may help her to recover more hurriedly Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
